Sunday, June 29, 2008

Here are some solid arguments from anti-Islamics as to why they do not like the Qur'an

Here are some solid arguments from anti-Islamics as to why they do not like the Qur'an:
- Qur'an ensures Justice in this world and in the hereafter (4:135, 5:8, 4:58, 57:25, 39:69-70, 40:17, 21:47, 36:54, 2:281, 7:29, 16:111, 17:13-15, 20:134-135, 4:123). But we don't like Justice, as we are a bunch of criminals!
- Qur'an strongly condemns (female) infanticide (16:58-59, 81:8-9, 6:137, 6:140, 6:151, 17:31). But we don't like it, as we are a bunch of killers of our infants! 
- Qur'an strongly opposes terrorists and oppressors (4:75, 22:39-40, 9:13-14, 42:39-43, 38:28, 2:190-193). But we don't like it, as we are a bunch of terrorists and oppressors!
- Qur'an strongly condemns unjust killing and suicide (5:32, 2:195, 4:29-30, 4:92-93, 17:31, 17:33, 6:151, 25:68, 3:21). But we don't like it, as we are a bunch of killers and potential suicide bombers!
- Qur'an teaches self-defense and tolerance (60:7-9, 2:190, 6:107-8, 6:68, 49:11, 39:3, 16:126-128, 73:10, 19:46-47). But we don't like it, as we are a bunch of aggressor and intolerant persons!
- Qur'an teaches that Islam is for everyone (2:62, 22:17, 21:107, 2:111-112, 5:69, 34:28, 103:1-3, 22:67, 10:47, 35:24, 16:36, 68:52, 49:13, 4:1, 2:213, 10:19, 17:70). But we don't like it, as we are a bunch of racist, nationalist, and communal minded persons!
- Qur'an offers freedom-of-faith (10:108, 6:104, 10:99, 39:41, 11:121, 73:19, 43:88-89, 2:272, 76:29, 18:29, 42:48, 76:3, 3:20, 88:21-22), freedom-of-religion (2:256, 109:6, 22:67-69, 42:15, 10:41, 2:139, 42:6), and freedom-of-freethinking (15:3, 17:84, 6:110, 10:11, 11:121, 52:45). But we don't like too much freedom, you know!
- Qur'an is the only non-Jewish scripture in the world where Jews have been honored and protected in so many places (2:40, 2:47-52, 2:57-58, 5:20, 5:44, 10:47, 10:90-93, 14:6, 17:2-3, 20:47-52, 20:77-80, 44:30-32, 45:16), good Jews have been praised with respect and they have also been offered salvation if they follow the true teachings of their own scriptures (2:62, 2:121-122, 3:113-115, 3:199, 5:12, 5:65-66, 5:69, 29:46). But we don't like it, as we are a bunch of Jew hater; although we love Zionist terrorists and killers! 
- Qur'an is the only non-Christian scripture in the world where Jesus and Mary have been honored with very high regard (3:42-55, 5:44-46, 5:110, 43:59, Chapter 19 on Mary), good Christians have been praised with respect and they have also been offered salvation if they follow the true teachings of their own scriptures (2:62, 2:121-122, 3:113-115, 3:199, 5:65-66, 5:69, 5:82, 29:46). But we don't like it, as we hate Jesus, Mary, and good Christians; although we love Christian terrorists and killers!
- Unlike Bible that prescribes death penalty for idolatry and polytheism (Deuteronomy 17:3-5, 13:6-15; 2 Chronicles 15:13), Qur'an doesn't have any temporal punishment for the same (22:17, 6:107-8, 22:67-69, 17:84, 49:11, 4:48). But we don't like it, as we want to kill all the idolaters and polytheists!
- Qur'an teaches love, mercy, kindness, and forgiveness (1:1-2, 85:14, 21:107, 60:7, 4:17, 7:199, 39:53, 16:119, 3:159, 15:85, 16:119, 19:96, 2:160, 2:163, 4:27-28). But we don't like these kinds of teachings, you know!
- Qur'an gives equal status (as human) and rights to men and women (4:1, 4:7, 4:124, 3:195, 16:97, 33:35, 49:13). But we don't like it, as we don't believe in equality!  
- Qur'an strongly condemns priesthood and religious peddlers (2:41, 2:79, 5:44, 3:187, 9:9, 9:31, 9:34, 2:174, 12:104). But we don't like it, as we are a bunch of religious peddlers! 
- Qur'an gives rights to orphans, needy, and widows (2:177, 2:115, 2:220, 2:240-241, 4:2, 4:8, 4:10, 4:36, 9:60, 17:26, 93:9-10, 89:17-18, 107:1-3). But we don't like these kinds of poor and vulnerable people, you know! 
- Qur'an teaches to give charity to poor and needy (2:43, 2:177, 2:277). But we don't want to spend anything for them, as we will not get any return! 
- Qur'an strongly forbids eating up others' property (2:188, 4:2, 4:10, 4:161). But we don't like it, as we are used to eating up others' property!
- Qur'an strongly condemns defrauders (83:1-4, 55:7-9). But we don't like it, as we are a bunch of defrauders!
- Qur'an strongly discourages intoxicants and gambling (5:90-91). But we don't like it, as we are a bunch of drunker and gambler!
-  Qur'an forbids eating dead animal, blood, and pork (16:115). But we don't like it, as we love these kinds of things!
-  Qur'an teaches not to follow feeble oath-monger, slanderer, greedy, and hinderer of the good (68:10-13, 49:11-12). But we don't like it, as we love these kinds of people!
- Qur'an encourages men to give dower to women as free gift whom they marry (4:4). But we don't like it, as we want to take dowry from them!
- Qur'an protects women's dignity from wicked men (24:4, 24:23). But we don't like it, as we are a bunch of rascals!
- Qur'an teaches that widow can re-marry, if she wishes (2:234-240). But we don't like it, as we want to burn her alive!
- Qur'an teaches that divorced woman can re-marry, if she wishes (2:229, 2:232). But we don't like it, as we want to keep her in prison!
- Qur'an teaches to be kind, helpful, and respectful to your parents (29:8, 17:23, 46:15, 19:14, 6:151, 4:36, 2:215, 2:83, 71:28). But we don't like it!
- Qur'an prescribes hundred stripes as a symbol of punishment for adultery and fornication to keep the society healthy (24:2). But we don't like it, as we are a bunch of adulterers and fornicators!
- Qur'an teaches cutting off the hands of the thieves to keep the society free from the criminals (5:38-39). But we don't like it, as we are a bunch of thieves and plunderers!
- Qur'an teaches not to follow conjecture (10:36, 17:36, 49:12). But we don't like it, as we are a bunch of pseudo scientists!
- Qur'an encourages traveling (29:20, 22:46, 6:11, 40:21, 47:10, 30:42, 3:137). But we don't like it, as we are a bunch of frogs in well!
- Qur'an condemns bad magic that may fool some gullible people (2:102). But we don't like it, as we use the same to earn bucks!
- Qur'an teaches not to practice monasticism (57:27). But we don't like it, as we prefer celibacy and monasticism!
- Qur'an teaches that the pre-Qur'anic people will be judged according to their scriptures (2:134, 10:47, 35:24, 16:36, 40:78, 4:164, 17:15, 62:5, 5:44, 20:133-4). But we don't like it, as we learned from our grandmas that all the pre-Qur'anic people will go to hell!
- Qur'an teaches to strive for good works (2:148). But we don't like it, as we are a bunch of lazy persons!
- Qur'an offers practical Golden Rule that can be followed (2:44, 41:34, 11:88, 60:7-9, 61:2-3, 8:61; Sahih Bukhari 8:73:26, 1:2:12). But we don't like it, as we are a bunch of impractical persons!
- Qur'an protects religious temples (22:40). But we don't like it, as we want to destroy them!
- Qur'an strongly teaches not to lie and not to mix up truth with falsehood (45:7, 2:42, 52:11-12, 3:94, 3:71, 39:3). But we don't like it, as we are a bunch of liars!

The Story of Baghdad
The Story of Baghdad
By Khalid Baig
There is more to the story of Baghdad than one can get from the news of the day.
Time was when it was the most advanced city in the world. In science and technology, commerce and manufacturing, intellectual pursuits and dissemination of knowledge, arts and literature, its achievements were unparalleled in east or west. The catastrophe that made all of that a distant memory was equally unprecedented in the history of mankind.
It started in 1218 CE. The savage armies of Chengiz (Genghis) Khan invaded and destroyed most of Central Asia and Persia razing to ground such great cities as Bukhara, Samarkand, Herat, Nishapur, and Balkh. He did not attack Baghdad, but paved the way for that invasion by his grandson, Halaku (Hulagu) Khan. In 1258, Halaku sacked Baghdad, killing 1.6 million people in the city and ending forever the signs of the glory of the great city. It was a complete scorched earth policy. They came, they looted, they destroyed, they burned, they killed, they left. The Mongols, as the whole world knows, were savage people. Barbarians.
In the 1990s, the land and its people were attacked again. They attacked hospitals and pharmacies, water reservoirs and food warehouses, factories and power stations, schools and orphanages, homes and bazaars. They also imposed a blockade on the country that denied food to the hungry and medicine to the sick. They sentenced everyone in the country to die a slow painful death.
Beyond the widespread death (of the innocent men, women and children) and destruction wrought by the invaders that came eight centuries apart, there are other similarities between the two. Chengiz Khan was provoked by a terrible folly of Khwarizm Shah, who had killed 400 Mongol traders on suspicion that they were spies. The invaders in 1991 were also "provoked", although they used an engineered provocation. Halaku had heard that it would be bad if the Muslim Khalifa's blood fell on the ground. So he did not kill him with his sword. Rather, the Khalifa was thrown in a sack and clubbed to death, then trampled by the horses. The invaders in 1998 had heard it would be bad to attack during the holy month of Ramadan. So, they started the carnage three days before it. It was a Halakuish display of sensitivity!
But Halaku only had weapons of mass destruction. The invaders in the 1990s not only had the most advanced weapons of mass destruction, they also had the weapons of mass distraction---the most advanced propaganda machinery ever developed, in the form of the CNN, the BBC, the Reuters, and other media giants. Halaku lacked it. That is why Halaku never sang "Peace on earth", while carrying out the massacres. He made no pretensions that he was doing it to uphold "international law." He did not make any pronouncements that he had "no quarrel with the people", while putting them to the sword. He did not announce his "respect for Islam" while burning mosques and schools. He was a barbarian!
Chengiz and Halaku Khan still rule the world today. Their logic and principles are still driving real-politick. The scene is repeated endlessly in Bosnia and Kosova, Kashmir and Palestine, Iraq and Beirut, Afghanistan and Sudan. But in their latest reincarnation they look so civilized and benign. It is amazing what the make-up artists and spin-doctors of world's finest propaganda machine can do. It looks pretty, but is no less deadly. This is the unvarnished truth about the world we live in today.
Was the Mongol invasion just an accident that happened because of a blunder by Khwarizm Shah? While a superficial reading of history may make one think that it was, reality is entirely different. Forces of evil have always been present in this world and will remain so, but they become dominant only when the forces of good become weak due to internal problems. We can see the big problems in the Muslim world of that time that were the real cause of the tragedy that followed. First was the infighting. Khwarizm Shah had spent most of his time and energies fighting with the Ghauris and other Muslim rulers in neighboring territories. The sons of the great Sultan Salahuddin fought among themselves. The governors of Makkah and Madinah were engaged in a battle between them. Alqami', the vizier of Musta'sim, the last Abbasid Khalifa who was killed by Halaku, had conspired against the Khalifa.
Then there was this love of money and the worldly pleasures. Everyone was busy raising his standard of living. Corruption was common. People were given to music and entertainment, pomp and show, conspicuous consumption, and vain pursuits. Khalifa Musta'sim himself was more interested in hunting and entertainment than the affairs of the state. There is a telling report about Badruddin Lulu, the ruler of Mosul, who once received two requests. Khalifa Muta'sim had asked him to send musical instruments and singers. Halako Khan asked for cannons and other weapons used for demolishing castles. And while all this was going on, some religious leaders were discussing who was superior: Ali Radi-Allahu unhu or Muawwiya Radi-Allahu unhu.
After taking Baghdad, Halako marched toward Syria and Africa. Everyone who came in his way was routed. He seemed so invincible. But in 1260 CE at Ain-Jalut, in Galilee, the forces of Sultan Baibers handed him a terrible defeat. The inspiring force behind the Sultan was Sheikh Izzuddin, a great scholar and reformer who urged the Sultan to move on and turn back the Mongol tide, and who himself participated in the jihad. His inspiring sermons brought the Muslims back to Islam by the thousands. When a people turn to Allah, Allah's help turns to them. Within two years all of Syria had been liberated from the Mongols. What is more, due to the great work of dawa carried out by the great scholars of that time, within forty years of Halako's invasion of Baghdad, his descendants had accepted Islam.
Today the moral and political picture of most parts of the Muslim world does not look much different from the one at the Baghdad of 1250s. Our tragedy is the same. The way out of that tragedy is also the same. If only we would reflect.

Repentance of Prophet Yunus/Jonah (alai salaam) & His people

Repentance  of Prophet Yunus/Jonah (alai salaam) & His people
Bismillah Hir Rahmaan Nir Raheem
Assalaamu alaykum wa rahmatuallahi wa barakatuhu

Prophet Jonah (Yunus) (pbuh) also known as Dhan-Nun. Yunus bin Matta, upon him be peace, was sent by Allah to the people of Nineveh, which was a town in the area of Mawsil ﴿in northern Iraq﴾.About his people Almighty Allah said: Was there any town community that believed after seeing the punishment, and its Faith at that moment, saved it from the punishment? (the answer is none)--except the people of Jonah; when they believed, We removed from them the torment of disgrace in the life of the present world, and permitted them to enjoy for a while. (Ch 10:98 Quran)
The inhabitants of the town of Nineveh were idolaters who lived a shameless life. Prophet Jonah (pbuh) was sent to teach them the worship of Allah. The people disliked his interference in their way of worship, so they argued. "We and our forefathers have worshipped these gods for many years and no harm has come to us."
Try as he might to convince them of the foolishness of idolatry and of the goodness of Allah's laws, the ignored him. He warned them that if they kept on with their foolishness, Allah's punishment would soon follow. Instead of fearing Allah, they told Jonah that they were not afraid of his threats. "Let it happen," they told him. Jonah was disheartened. "in that case, I will leave you to your misery!" so saying, he left Nineveh, fearing that Allah's anger would soon follow. Remember Dhan Nun (Jonah), when he went off in anger, and imagined that We shall not punish him (the calamities which had befallen him)! (ch 21:87)
Hardly had he left the city when the skies began to change color and looked as if they were on fire. The people were filled with fear by this sight. They recalled the destruction of the people of 'Ad, Thamud and Noah. Was theirs to be a similar fate? Slowly faith penetrated their hearts. They all gathered on the mountain and started to beseech Allah for His mercy and forgiveness. The mountains echoed with their cries. It was a momentous hour, filled with sincere repentance.
They went out to the desert with their children and cattle and flocks. They separated the mothers from their children, then they beseeched Allah and pleaded to Him, with the camels and their young groaning, the cows and their calves mooing, and the sheep and their lambs bleating, They then cried out to Allah for forty nights.  so Allah spared them from the punishment.
Allah removed His wrath and showered His blessings upon them once again. When the threatening storm was lifted, they prayed for the return of Jonah so that he could guide them.
Meanwhile, Jonah had boarded a small ship in the company of other passengers. It sailed all day in calm waters with a good wind blowing at the sails. When night came, the sea suddenly changed. A horrible storm blew as if it were going to split the ship into pieces. The waves looked wild. They rose up as high as mountains then plunged down like valleys, tossing the ship and sweeping over the deck.
Behind the ship, a large whale was splitting the water and opening its mouth. A command had been issued from Almighty Allah to one of the greatest whales of the sea to surface. It obeyed. The whale hurried to the surface of the sea and followed the ship as it had been commanded.
The tempest continued and the chief crewman asked the crew to lighten the ship's heavy load. They threw their baggage overboard, but this was not enough. Their safety lay in reducing the weight further, so they decided among themselves to lighten their load by removing at least one person.
The captain directed: We will make lots with all of the travelers' names. The one whose name is drawn will be thrown into the sea." Jonah knew this was one of the seamen's traditions when facing a tempest. It was a strange polytheistic tradition, but it was practiced at that time. Jonah's affliction and crisis began.
Here was the prophet, subjected to polytheistic rules that considered the sea and the wind to have gods that riot. The captain had to please these gods. Jonah reluctantly participated in the lot, and his name was added to the other travelers' names. The lot was drawn and "Jonah" appeared.
Since they knew him to be the most honorable among them, they did not wish to throw him into the angry sea. Therefore, they decided to draw a second lot. Again Jonah's name was drawn. They gave him a final chance and drew a third lot. Unfortunately for Jonah, his name came up again.
Jonah realized that Allah's hand was in all this, for he had abandoned his mission without Allah's consent. The matter was over, and it was decided that Jonah should throw himself into the water. Jonah stood at the edge of the ship looking at the furious sea. It was night and there was no moon. The stars were hidden behind a black fog. But before he could be thrown overboard, Jonah kept mentioning Allah's name as he jumped into the raging sea and disappeared beneath the huge waves.
The whale found Jonah floating on the waves before it. It swallowed Jonah into its furious stomach and shut its ivory teeth on him as if they were white bolts locking the door of his prison. The whale dived to the bottom of the sea, the sea that runs in the abyss of darkness.
Three layers of darkness enveloped him, one above the other; the darkness of the whale's stomach, the darkness of the bottom of the sea, the darkness of the night. Jonah imaged himself to be dead, but his senses became alert when he found he could move. He knew that he was alive and imprisoned in the midst of three layers of darkness. Whale took him through the sea, cleaving it until it reached the bottom of the sea. Yunus heard the rocks at the bottom of the sea uttering glorification of Allah.His heart was moved by remembering Allah. His tongue released soon after saying: La ilaha illa Anta (none has the right to be worshipped but You (O Allah), Glorified (and Exalted) be You (above all that evil they associate with You), Truly, I have been of the wrong doers." (Ch 21:87 Quran)
Jonah continued praying to Allah, repeating this invocation. Fishes, whales, seaweeds, and all the creatures that lived in the sea heard the voice of Jonah praying, heard the celebration of Allah's praises issuing from the whale's stomach. All these creatures gathered around the whale and began to celebrate the praises of Allah in their turn, each in its own way and in its own language.
The whale also participated in celebrating the praises of Allah and understood that it had swallowed a prophet. Therefore it felt afraid; however, it said to itself; "Why should I be afraid? Allah commanded me to swallow him."
Allah Almighty saw the sincere repentance of Jonah and heard his invocation in the whale's stomach. Allah commanded the whale to surface and eject Jonah onto an island. The whale obeyed and swam to the farthest side of the ocean. Allah commanded it to rise towards the warm, refreshing sun and the pleasant earth.
The whale ejected Jonah onto a remote island. His body was inflamed because of the acids inside the whale's stomach. He was ill, and when the sun rose, its ray burned his inflamed body so that he was on the verge of screaming for the pain. However, he endured the pain and continued to repeat his invocation to Allah.
Almighty Allah caused a vine to grow to considerable length over him for protection. Then Allah Exalted caused Jonah to recover and forgave him. Allah told Jonah that if it had not been for his praying to Him, he would have stayed in the whale's stomach till the Day of Judgment.
Almighty Allah recounted: And, verily, Jonah was one of the Messengers. When he ran to the laden ship, he agreed to cast lots and he was among the losers, Then a big fish swallowed him and he had done an act worthy of blame. Had he not been of them who glorify Allah, he would have indeed remained inside its belly (the fish) till the Day of Resurrection. But We cast him forth on the naked shore while he was sick and We caused a plant of gourd to grow over him. And We sent him to a hundred thousand people or even more, and they believed; so We gave them enjoyment for a while. (Ch 37:139-148 Quran).
Gradually he regained his strength and found his way to his hometown, Nineveh. He was pleasantly surprised to notice the change that had taken place there. The entire population turned out to welcome him. They informed him that they had turned to believe in Allah. Together they led a prayer of thanksgiving to their Merciful Lord.
Ibn Abbas narrated: "The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said: 'One should not say I am better than Jonah Ibn Matta.'" (Sahih Bukhari).

By Ibn Kathir
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Surah Isra 17 verse 80 Say: "O my Lord! let my entry be by the Gate of Truth and Honor and likewise my exit by the Gate of Truth and Honor; and grant me from Thy Presence an authority to aid (me)."

Transliteration :Wa qur rabbi adkhilni mudkhala sidqiw wa akhrijni mukhraja sidqiw wa-j'al li mil ladunka sulta_nan nasira_(n).

Al-Tirmidhi HadithHadith 2482 Narrated byAbuHurayrah
Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) used to say, " O Allah, grant me benefit in what Thou hast taught me, teach me what will benefit me, and increase my knowledge. Praise be to Allah in all circumstances. I seek refuge in Allah from the state of those who go to Hell."
Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah transmitted it, Tirmidhi saying this is a tradition whose isnad is gharib.


Sleep disturbances in children

In the name of Allah, the Most-Merciful, the All-Compassionate

"May the Peace and Blessings of Allah be Upon You"
Praise be to Allaah, we seek His help and His forgiveness. We seek refuge with Allaah from the evil of our own souls and from our bad deeds. Whomsoever Allaah guides will never be led astray, and whomsoever Allaah leaves astray, no one can guide. I bear witness that there is no god but Allaah, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.

Bismillah Walhamdulillah Was Salaatu Was Salaam 'ala Rasulillah
As-Salaam Alaikum Wa-Rahmatullahi Wa-Barakatuhu
Sleep Disturbances In Children
- Al-Shaqaa’iq magazine
Sleep is a mercy from the Lord of the World.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
"And have made the night as a covering"
[al-Naba’ 78:10]

(i.e., as a covering for you. Hence the scholars agreed that sleeping at night is very important for physical health.)

During the first years of life, a child sleeps approximately 22 hours a day, but he wakes up from time to time because he is hungry or sick or thirsty, or for some other need.

The hours of sleep are reduced until the child sleeps for 10 hours when he is six years old, and eight hours when he reaches his teens.

The child has to sleep for this number of hours so that he will grow up healthy and free from nervous tension.

Mistakes that we make:

1. Delaying the child’s sleep causes nervous tension,
especially when he has to be woken up to go to school and he has not had enough sleep. This can lead to him not being able to focus in the classroon or even falling asleep in class.

2. Some families have a strict bedtime which is never changed for any reason whatsoever.
The child has to sleep at eight o’clock no matter what the circumstances. This is a mistake because if the child is having fun playing, then he is forced to go to sleep, this is a kind of abuse and a lack of respect for his personality.
If the child goes to sleep tense, this will be reflected in his sleep, and he will have nightmares and will not be relaxed in his sleep.

3. Some fathers wake their child up to play with him
or because they have bought a new toy for him, especially when the father has been at work all day and this is the only opportunity he has.
But this is a mistake, because you are interrupting your child’s sleep and it will be difficult for him to relax and go to back to sleep.

4. Some parents use scare tactics to make their children go to sleep.
This is the worst mistake that parents can make.

5. Some mothers tell their children frightening stories
which may scare them. This has negative effects on the child’s sleep, in the form of nightmares which disturb his sleep.

6. Some families encourage their children to drink liquids such as juice or water, etc., especially just before bedtime.
This leads to the bedwetting which most families complain of.

7. Closing the door on the child when he goes to sleep
and it is very dark cultivates a fear of the dark in the child; it also makes him restless and unable to sleep well.

8. Not making the child get used to sleeping alone from an early age.
Some families allow the child to sleep with the parents or the mother until the age of six.
This is a serious mistake, because it makes the child grow up dependent on others and restless.

Hence we advise parents to get their children used to sleeping alone from an early age, after few years, so that they will be used to that.

Finally: we note that many of the problems which children are suffering from, such as bedwetting, fear of the dark, screaming in their sleep (“night terrors”), falling asleep in school, not being able to concentrate or not going to school at all… are all caused by disturbed sleep and restlessness

Al-Shaqaa’iq magazine, issue #36, p. 44.


Narrated By Abu Huraira : The Prophet (peace be upon him) said,
"The signs of a hypocrite are three:
1. Whenever he speaks, he tells a lie.
2. Whenever he promises, he always breaks it (his promise).
3. If you trust him, he proves to be dishonest. (If you keep something as a trust with him, he will not return it.)"
Hadith quoted from Sahih Al Bukhari Volume 001, Book 002, Hadith Number 032.

Monday, June 23, 2008

Carry me in your arms....

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Carry me in your arms....

Abu Hurairah narrated that Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said: "The believers who show the most perfect faith are those who have the best disposition and the best of you are those who are best to their wives."


When I got home that night as my wife Ameena served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn't know how to say it. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. Ameena didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, Ismail why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She shouted at me, "you are not a man!"

That night, we didn't talk to each other. Ameena was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; I had lost my heart to a lovely girl called Mary Anne. I didn't love Ameena anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house and the car. She glanced at it and then tore it to pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said, for I loved Mary Anne so dearly.

Finally Ameena cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me, her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell fast asleep because I was tired after an eventful day with Mary Anne. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did'nt care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month, we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son Ahmed had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy.

Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request. I told Mary Anne about my wife's divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she has, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully. Ameena and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son Ahmed clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly, don't tell Ahmed about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest.. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to Ameena.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Mary Anne about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me, .. she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart.

Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son Ahmed came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. Ameena gestured to our son to come close and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Ahmed had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.

I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Mary Anne opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Mary Anne, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished. Then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Mary Anne, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I realized that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until one of us departs this world.

Mary Anne seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The sales girl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote: I will carry you out every morning until one of us leaves this world!

The small details of our lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, the property, the bank balance that matters. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build a relationship.

Allah says in the Qur'an:"Men are the supporters of women, because Allah has stowed on the one more than the other, and for what they have to provide (for them) from their sources. So the righteous women are obedient and protect in the absence of their husbands that which God ordains to be protected."(Qur'an 4:34)

Allah says in the Qur'an:"And the believing men and the believing women, they are the friends of each other, they enjoin good and forbid evil, and establish prayers, and pay the alms, and obey God and His Messenger, these, upon them God will have mercy, indeed, God is almighty, All-wise." (Qur'an 9:71)

Prophet[p.b.u.h] said, "The best of you is he who is the best to his family, and I am the best to my family"

Monday, June 09, 2008


Fwd Email
1.  IMAAN , Every Muslim should strive for perfect Imaan.
             To have firm conviction that
·         All success lies only in the hands of ALLAH alone
·         The treasures of every thing is in the hands of ALLAH alone
·         ALLAH is the creator and controller of all things and conditions
ALLAH does every thing without the help of the entire creation, while the entire creation can do nothing without the help of ALLAH.
The Kalima is the most excellent of all form of zikr
A person who recites the kalima 100x daily, his face will be shining like the 14th moon on the day of Qiamat
Frequent recitation renews the Imaan.  It is the best of all good deeds.  Continuous recitation leaves no sin unwashed.
Nothing prevents this kalima from reaching ALLAH.
Listen frequently to talks about the qualities of ALLAH
Speak (give da'wat) many times (at least 25x)
So with the awareness that ALLAH is the creator and controller of every thing.
Think & ponder of the attributes of ALLAH.
Only in following the sunnah of Nabi (SAW) is there success, any other lifestyle leads to failure in this life and in the hereafter.
To revive a sunnah in the time of Fitnah & corruption, the reward is equal to that of 100 shuhadaa (martyrs)
Give da'wat about the importance of sunnah Learn & practice daily sunnats

2.  SALAAH , Salaah should be given preference over all matters.
Our life outside salaah should be on the pattern of salaah.
If our salaah is correct, then our whole lives will be corrected.
The key to Jannah is through salaat
Salaat makes our daily rizq (sustenance)  easy
Give da'wat about the importance of salaah
Invite towards salaah
Perform long rakaats of nafl salaah

3.  ZIKR , We should remember the Almighty with every breath we take
Zikr polishes the heart; brings peace of mind & removes difficulties in this world & uplifts the punishment in the grave
Learn & read mas noon dua's ...lstighfaar;   Durood on Nabie (SAW) & Third kalima 100x daily (moming&evening ).

4.  IKRAAM , A Muslim should always be ready to assist a fellow Muslim at all costs.
A person who helps a muslim in need , ALLAH grants 73 favours to such person.1 favour is sufficient to fulfill all his needs in this world & 72 is to raise his status in the hereafter.
Make salaam; respect elders & ulama; treat juniors with kindness; visit the sick; attend janaza's & nikah & give good advi ce.

5.  IKHLAAS, Anything we do, we do for Allah alone
A person who gives a date only to please ALLAH, ALLAH will grant such person a mountain of reward, but if a person gives for name & fame, ALLAH will take them to task.
To make intention & check during & after deeds that it is solely for the pleasure of ALLAH

6.  DAWAH ILLAL-LAAH , Always show those around you the beauty of our deen.
One morning or evening in the path of ALLAH is better than the whole world & whatever it contains.  A little while in the path of ALLAH is more in reward than making Ibadat the whole night near the Hajeraswad on Laylatul Qadr.  The smoke, let alone the fire of Jahannam is not allowed to touch that part of the body on which dust settles in the path of ALLAH
To create in us the capacity to give our lives for the deen of ALLAH.


Masjid's impact on family

The Masjid's Impact on the Family
"Let us not give up meeting together [in Masjid],
as some are in the habit of doing,
but let us encourage one another…."

A study conducted some time ago by sociologist Steven Nock
of the University of Virginia showed that couples who regularly attend
Masjid are 42% more likely to be married for the first time.
And those in the Masjid who were committed to its beliefs
had a 23% better chance of having a "very happy"
marriage than those who don't attend Masjid.

Furthermore, according to a report by Warren Mueller,
where both parents attend Masjid regularly,
92% of their children continue in the faith.
Where only the father attends, that percentage drops to 55%,
but where only the mother attends,
just 15% of the children remain involved in the Masjid.

Need I say more?

Suggested prayer:
"Dear God, please help me to be an active participant
in a healthy Masjid and have positive fellowship (relationships)
with fellow Muslims both for my own growth
and to be an encourager to others.

Make Dua for me :)

The meaning of love in Islam

The meaning of love in Islam
IT is so common that the meaning of love has been restricted in the modern age to the love relationship between a man and a woman. This is a very narrow-minded view of love. Islam has is own comprehensive view of love.
The fist type of love that Islam calls for is the Love of Allah, praise be to Him. This love makes you avoid committing sins in order not to make whom you love, Allah, get angry with you. This love also urges you to contemplate all the different aspect of nature that usually lead you to have a deeper faith in the Creator who created all this beauty round us.
The second type of love is the love of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him). This love also makes you follow the example of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) in all his dealings and manners. Also this love is an indication of the love of Allah as stated in the Holy Qur'an, "Say: 'If you do love Allah, Follow me: Allah will love you and forgive you your sins: For Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.'" Say: "Obey Allah and His Messenger: But if they turn back, Allah loves not those who reject Faith." (Qur'an, 3:31-32)
The third type of love is human love. It means that the Muslim has to love his other fellow men regardless of their ethnic, linguistic or cultural background. This includes love of neighbors, colleagues, relatives and even strangers. This type of love persuades the Muslim to help anybody whenever he can. There are numerous of Ahadith that exhort Muslims to help anybody who really needs help because such an altruistic act takes the Muslim one step closer to Allah.
The fourth type of love is the love between a man and a woman, but Islam organizes and regulates these lofty feelings within the framework of marriage because Islam views that marital love leads the couple to have a peaceful and happy family life, which is the core of the Muslim society.
In other words, this love is acceptable as long as it is within the framework of marriage and this is encouraged in a number of verses in the Holy Qur'an, "And among His signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put affection and mercy between you: verily in that are indeed signs for those who reflect: (Qur'an, 30:21)

Sunday, June 01, 2008

Love has no limit...

LOVE HAS NO LIMIT....... .....
While Dad was polishing his new car,
his 4 yr old son picked stone & scratched lines on the side of the car.
In his anger, Dad took the child's hand & hit it many times, not
realizing he was using a wrench.
At the hospital, his child said "Dad when will my fingers grow back?"

Dad was so hurt.

He went back to car and kicked it a lot of times.

Sitting back he looked at the scratches, child wrote "I LOVE YOU DAD"

Anger and Love has no limits...

A thoughtful conversation to reflect

A Mufti sat next to a Reverend on a flight.

The Rev asked the Mufti:

What is your occupation?

Mufti: I'm into big business

Rev: But what business exactly?

Mufti: I deal with God

Rev: Ah, so you're a Muslim religious leader. I have one problem with
you Muslims: you oppress your women.

Mufti: How do we oppress women?

Rev: You make your women cover up completely and you keep them in the

Mufti: Ah. I have a problem with you people: you oppress MONEY

Rev: What? How can one oppress money?

Mufti: You keep your money hidden away,

in wallets, banks and safes. You keep it covered up. Why don't you
display it in public if it's a beautiful thing

Rev: It will get stolen, obviously.

Mufti: You keep your money hidden because it is so valuable. We value
the true worth of women far, far more. Therefore, these precious jewels
are not on display to one and all. They are kept in honour and dignity.

Thank God We Are Muslims

Nasar Ahmed

Nasar Ahmed

The Shaykh and the Prostitute

Did you hear of the story of the Shaykh from Azhar and the prostitute?
No …
Well, here you go, as was narrated by Shaykh Ali Tantawi [May Allah
(SWT) have mercy on him] in his memoir about Shaykh Ahmad Al-Zayaat
[May Allah (SWT) have mercy on him].
Shaykh Ali Tantawi said:
"The Shaykh (Ahmad Al-Zayaat) was a teacher, who did not know anything
of this world except: The Azhar where he used to teach, the house he
used to live in, and the road between them.

As years passed by, and he got older, his health started to
deteriorate, and he needed to rest. So the doctor forced him to take
some time of, and suggested that he goes somewhere away from his place
of work and residence, and advised him to enjoy the quietness and
calmness of the parks next to the Nile.
So one day, the Shaykh went out and stopped a carriage (as cars were
not that available at the time). He told the driver: My son, take me
to a nice place were I can enjoy the view and relax.
The driver of the carriage, however, was a wicked person, and took the
Shaykh to a place in Egypt, which at the time had several prostitution

After arriving he told the Shaykh: Here [we are].
The Shaykh said: O son, Magrib prayer is drawing near, where can I
pray? Take me first to the Masjid.
The Driver [pointing to one of those houses] said: The Masjid is over
The door [of the place] was open, and the lady running that house was
sitting, in the manner those like her usually sit.
When the Shaykh saw her, he lowered his gaze. He saw a seat, so he
headed there and sat, waiting for the Call for prayer (Adhan).
[The woman in confusion, just] stared at him.

What brought that man here?
He doesn't look like any of her regular customers.
She kept thinking to herself, but did not dare ask him what he was
doing here.
What kept her from asking was the shyness that remained in her heart,
even as a prostitute. However, that shyness only appears in front of
people of Piety.

He, on the other hand, kept doing Tasbeeh (saying Subhan Allah (SWT)),
whilst looking at his watch, until he heard the Adhan of Maghrib from
far away.
He asked her: Where is the Moazin (Person who calls for prayers) here?
Why didn't he call for prayer when the time entered?
Are you his daughter?
She … kept silent.

He waited for a while, and then said: My daughter, Maghrib time is
short, and it is not permissible to delay it, and I do not see anyone
here, so if you have your Wudu (ablution) then pray behind me Jama'ah.
He gave the call for prayer, and without looking at her, as he was
about to give the Iqamah, he noticed stillness behind him?!
He asked: What is wrong? Don't you have your Wudu?
All of a sudden, as if her Iman (Faith) woke up and she remembered the
old days. The days when she was filled with purity, and was away from
sin, she started to cry loudly, and threw herself at his feet.
The Shaykh surprised, did not know in what way he can calm her.
She then, started narrating her story.
He saw in her words great regret, and felt the truth in her
repentance. He realized the sincerity in what she was saying, so he
told her: Listen, my daughter, to what the Lord of all creation says:
{Say, "O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by
sinning], do not despair of the Mercy of Allah (SWT). Indeed Allah
(SWT) forgives all sins …"} (39:53).
All sins, my daughter, all sins …
The door of repentance is open to every sinner and it is so wide that
it can encompass them all no matter how heavy their load [of sins] is
… even Kufr.

So whoever disbelieves in the all Mighty, after he was a believer, but
repents before the hour of his death comes, and he was sincere in his
repentance, and he renewed his Islam, Allah (SWT) will accept him.
Allah (SWT), my dear daughter, is the most Generous of all. Did you
ever hear of anyone generous shutting the door in the face of those
who come seeking him?
Stand up and go wash yourself, and cover yourself. Go and clean your
skin with water and your heart with repentance and regret. Approach
your Lord, and I will wait for you.
But do not delay, so that we do not miss Maghrib prayer.
She did as he asked, and returned to him with a new dress and a new
heart. She stood behind him and prayed. She felt and tasted the
sweetness of that prayer, and felt that this prayer purified her heart.

When the prayer was over, he told her: Come with me, and try to cut
every relation you have with this place and everyone in it. Try to
erase the time you spent here from your memory.
Consistently ask Allah (SWT) for his forgiveness, and increase in
doing righteous deeds.
Verily, adultery is not as big a sin as Kufr, and Hind [bint `Utbah –
May Allah (SWT) be pleased with her], who was a disbeliever and had
animosity in her heart to the Prophet of Allah (SWT). After that she
became from the righteous believers, and we started saying: Allah
(SWT) is well-pleased with her.
The Shaykh then took her to a house of righteous ladies, and then
found her a righteous husband and advised him to take good care of
her" 1/252.

[Original writer in Arabic forum said]: Notice [May Allah (SWT) shower
you with Mercy] the state of this woman, how she was and how she
changed. It was nothing more than simple words from an old man that
led her into changing her life upside down.
So if you only think how many people are just like this woman.
People who are drowning in filth, people who the dust from their sins
gathered around their hearts shedding away its light.
These sins caused them to see the Truth as Falsehood and the Falsehood
as Truth.
How much are they in need of one to take by their hands, and to clear
the dust away from their hearts.

They do not need complicated educational and behavioral philosophical
treatments, or theories in the manners of interaction and persuasion.
Neither are they in need of complicated statements.
What they truly need is for someone to feel sorry for them and for
their state … Someone to understand their situation and to hope for
their guidance … Someone who would speak a word that would leave his
heart, [and touch theirs]. A word which he seeks nothing from except
the Face of Allah (SWT).
After this the light, that was for so long covered with sins, would
emerge and their souls would return to its Fitrah, and would return to
its harmony with the universe and to the true manner of life.