Sunday, March 29, 2009

Fever, a blessing in disguise

Fever, a blessing in disguise

by Shahid Khan

FEVER wipes out one’s sins and rids his body from dead substances and germs. It is a blessing in disguise.

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “When a believer gets sick or feverish, it is like metal when put on fire, the bad is gone and the good remains.” (Al-Bayhaqi)

He (peace be upon him) also describes the intensity of fever by saying: “Fever is coal from hell, get rid of it by using cold water.” (Ibn Majah)

The Prophet (peace be upon him) forbade the cursing of fever by saying: “Do not curse a fever because it abolishes sins like fire abolishes dirt from iron.” (Ibn Majah)

The cure the Prophet (peace be upon him) told us for fever 1400 years ago is still practiced as one of the best ways to reduce fever.

A bacterial or viral infection usually raises the temperature of a person. Antibiotics are useless with viral infections, such as the influenza and the common cold, although the patient might sweat and have a very high fever. Putting cold pads on a patient’s forehead is used by doctors in several hospitals though medicines like aspirin and paracetamol are abundant.

Using water to reduce fever is not limited to using cold pads. Drinking a lot of fluids is also helpful. This is also understood from the wordings of the Prophetic narration: “cool it with water.” Water is either what the patient drinks, what is given intravenously or what the patient puts on his face or body to cool the fever.

Another scientific miracle can be found in the Prophet’s statement, “the bad is gone and the good remains.” To understand this, let’s look at what fever really is.

Fever occurs when the body temperature rises above normal (37 C). There is an area in the brain which is a temperature regulator.

When a germ enters the body, it starts secreting toxins. Toxins affect the temperature regulator causing its temperature to rise. The substances that cause this rise in temperature are called pyrogens. Pyrogens are caused not only by germs but also by the ruined tissues in the body after being affected with germs.

When the temperature rises in the temperature regulator, the rest of the body has to comply. It increases its temperature in response. Soon, the whole body feels feverish and the patient’s temperature rises.

When the inflammation worsens, the germs increase and consequently ruin the tissues. The germs and the pyrogens will find the body’s defense system ready to attack and eat the by-products of the germs and rid the body of them. While doing this, it releases to the body fluids a substance called leukocyte pyrogens or endogenous.

Therefore, the fever remains while the body is cleansing itself from the by-products, confirming again the Prophetic narration.

Study: Men Objectify Scantily Clad Women

Study: Men Objectify Scantily Clad Women
By Amel Abdullah
Freelance Writer - United States
Memory tests performed on the men showed that most of them best remembered photographs of headless women in bikinis despite viewing each image for only a fraction of a second.
Anecdotally, Muslim women often speak of feeling "protected," "safe," and "respected" when they wear the hijab (religiously mandated modest dress that covers the shape of the body and includes the headscarf or veil). Now there may also be evidence to show that their feelings are rooted in scientific fact.
When psychologist Susan Fiske and a team of researchers at Princeton University performed MRI brain scans on heterosexual men who viewed a series of images showing both scantily clad and fully clothed men and women, they found that the men had an unmistakable response to women wearing less clothing.
The less they wore, the more likely it was for the premotor cortex and the posterior middle temporal gyrus to light up. These are the areas of the brain associated with tool use, hand manipulation, and the urge to take action. (Cikara, Dell'Amore)
"It was as if they immediately thought about how they might act on these bodies," Fiske explained during the annual meeting of the American Association for the Advancement of Science which was held in Chicago, February 12-16. "They are reacting to these photographs as people react to objects," she said. (Nicholson)
Memory tests performed on the men showed that most of them best remembered photographs of headless women in bikinis despite viewing each image for only a fraction of a second. (Landau)
Fiske and her team further examined the men for hostile sexist attitudes. They found that those rated as more hostile had little activity in areas of the brain that are associated with considering another person's thoughts and feelings (a phenomenon called mentalizing) when looking at sexualized photos of women in bikinis. "They are not thinking about their minds," said Fiske. (Cikara, Dell'Amore, Landau)
Sexualized Women Viewed as Less Human
Several studies further demonstrate the link between viewing pornography and committing violence against women, including rape and sexual assault.
According to a lay summary of Fiske's study provided to IslamOnline.net, when a man's mentalizing network shuts down, this means he views sexualized women as "less human." (Cikara) This type of dehumanization is something Fiske says has rarely been observed in the laboratory setting—only "once before," according to a recent National Geographic article, which cited a study in which people were shown "off-putting photographs of homeless people and drug addicts." (Dell'Amore)
In the case of scantily clad women, however, men do not demonstrate the same feelings of avoidance as they do with populations like the homeless, which are often shunned by society. Instead, they wish to act on them as one would "push," "handle," or "grab" an object—first-person action verbs that men associated with the images of women in swimsuits. (Dell'Amore, Landau)
Mina Cikara, a Princeton University graduate student who was involved in conducting the study, added that men do not view their wives or sisters in the same manner they view sexualized images of women. In addition, men associated the images of women who were more fully clothed with third-person verbs, such as "she pushes," "she handles," and "she grabs," which, according to Fiske, implies that men view fully-clothed women as having more command over their own actions and not as objects to be manipulated. (Eshleman, Landau)
More Clothing, More Respect
"One of the main objectives of hijab is to safeguard women from the gazes of people of weak morals."
According to Fiske, the results of the study have important implications for women, especially in the workplace as it has previously been shown that viewing sexualized images of women can affect how men perceive women and interact with them afterwards. (Landau, Sample) A sexism study conducted by Lawrence University professor, Peter Glick, also found that professional women who wear provocative attire in the workplace are perceived by their co-workers as being less competent and less intelligent, especially when they are in positions of power. According to DiversityJobs.com, Glick's study suggests that "women in higher level and high power jobs may need to dress more modestly and conservatively to win the respect of their colleagues." (DiversityJobs.com)
Several studies further demonstrate the link between viewing pornography and committing violence against women, including rape and sexual assault. In the wars of Bosnia and Iraq, soldiers who committed atrocious crimes and dehumanized the other side were often found to be regular consumers of pornography, even viewing pornography on purpose to "psyche themselves up" for the work of killing. (Chew, Rejali)
Fiske compared the results of her study to studies showing that viewing television can desensitize one to the effects of violence. "You have to be aware of the effect of these images on people," Fiske told The Daily Princetonian. "They're not neutral. They do have an effect on how people think about other women." (Eshleman, Alleyne)
Dignity and Confidence
"There were times where I wish I was covered up more so that I could just get home without worrying about who might be following me."
Despite mounting evidence showing the benefits of modest and conservative dress, media portrayals of the hijab frequently depict Muslim women as victims of oppression, mind-control, and abuse.
Karen Danielson, however, maintains that wearing the hijab gives her both dignity and confidence. Danielson, an American living in Jordan, first wore the hijab more than two decades ago, shortly after embracing Islam in 1983.
"When I walk in public, I cannot be looked at or judged based on my sensuality or lack of either, or how I attract or not attract men," she explained to IslamOnline.net. "I define myself based on my upright behavior and intelligence—what my dress upholds—and I am humbled in my modest dress."
"I feel that I can be myself, a unique individual with her own voice to speak," added Sumayah Finnigan. "I am not conforming to the majority in what they say and wear and thus I am me - which is thoroughly liberating."
Balqees Mohammed, an American who embraced Islam in 1979, holds similar views and told IslamOnline.net that the hijab "promotes modesty...for the woman as well as all those around her."
Mohammed, who lives in Saudi Arabia and covers her face in addition to the rest of her body, says that her way of dressing "causes others, particularly men, to not be so free to engage in unnecessary discussion."
Hijab and Safety
"The message that the woman gives when she wears Islamic dress is as follows: 'Respect me for who I am. I am not a sex object.'"
"I definitely feel safer wearing hijab and dressing modestly in general," Cari Abudeyeh, another American living in Jordan and a practicing Muslim of twelve years told IslamOnline.net.
"I feel it is my barrier against men staring or disrespecting me and my boundaries. It is a barrier to prevent or change that first instinctive look men give you to check you out and see what you are 'about,' a barrier to prevent sexual feelings you didn't intend them to feel or ideas in their heads that are created by dressing provocatively."
She went on to say that "It's a protection against men approaching you in an inappropriate manner, helping to influence their decision in the way they stand by you, talk to you, look at you, or even prevent them from touching you."
Finnigan, who is from London, contrasts wearing the hijab, which she describes as "an act of obedience to the Creator" that "makes women safer in both the literal sense and the spiritual sense," with the feelings of vulnerability she used to experience before accepting Islam and the hijab in 1999.
"There were times where I wish I was covered up more so that I could just get home without worrying about who might be following me," said Finnigan. "Every night I would venture out and return home always looking over my shoulder, afraid I would be attacked or raped."
"There will always be those who will or may attack women regardless of their manners or style of dress," acknowledges Mohammed. However, she sees the Muslim hijab as "an added help to ward off possible physical approaches."
"One of the main objectives of hijab is to safeguard women from the gazes of people of weak morals and from those seeking to indulge in unlawful worldly pleasures," says Sheikh Riyad Al-Musaymiri, a professor at Al-Imam University in Riyadh. (IslamToday.com)
"The Muslim woman is distinguished from the impious woman, for which she deserves respect." (Al-Musaymiri)
According to IslamToday.com, some Western observers have assumed that the head covering of a woman is meant to show her inferiority to men.
"This could not be further from the truth. The Qur'an explicitly states that the reason for her dressing this way is so that she will be respected. The message that the woman gives when she wears Islamic dress is as follows: 'Respect me for who I am. I am not a sex object.'" (IslamToday.com)
For Mohammed, the choice to wear the hijab was an obvious one. "For me, it was not a question of safety. I never even thought of it in that light," she explained.
"It was a question of following Allah's directives. For me, I was [neither] happy nor satisfied in becoming a Muslim only half-way. Either I became a Muslim and followed the commands and directives the best that I could, or I remained as I was previously."
"My dress helps to remind me about my behavior and my religion and it indicates to others the same," added Danielson. "And that is security on more levels than just safety in public; it is peace of mind and a protected heart that is molded. Alhamdulillah (Praise to God)!"

Tuesday, March 24, 2009

Allah is pleased with repentence…

Hadrat Anas ibn Malik (r.a.), the servant of the Messenger of Allah (saws) narrated: ‘The Messenger of Allah (saws) said, "Verily, Allah is more pleased with the repentance of His slave than a person who has lost his camel in a waterless desert carrying his provision of food and drink. He, having lost all hopes (to get his camel and provisions back), lies down in shade and is disappointed about his (lost) camel; when all of a sudden he finds that camel standing before him. He takes hold of its reins and then out of boundless joy blurts out: 'O Allah, You are my slave and I am Your lord. He commits this mistake out of extreme joy."’

Related by Muslim. quoted from Riyad-us-Saliheen (Hadith # 15)

Commentary:

Nothing pleases Allah Subhanah more than a person who has transgressed the prescribed limits of Allah, and that person realizing his error turns unto his Lord and Creator in ‘taubah’, and seeks sincere forgiveness for his sins.

In another narration, the Messenger of Allah (saws) said: ‘All of the children of Adam are sinners, and the best (or most loved by Allah) of those sinners are those who constantly seek repentance.’

Regardless of the quantity or the quality of the sins one might have committed in one’s past, if one turns back unto their Lord Most Merciful and seeks sincere repentance, Allah Subhanah has promised to forgive all the sins of His repentant slaves.

Monday, March 16, 2009

Kufr…

Hadrat Abu Dharr al-Ghaffari (r.a.) reported: ‘I heard the Messenger of Allah (saws) saying: "A person who attributes his fatherhood to anyone other than his real father, knowing that he is not his father, commits an act of disbelief. And he who makes a claim of anything which in fact does not belong to him, is none of us. He should make his abode in Hell, and he who labels anyone as disbeliever or calls him the enemy of Allah and he is in fact not so, his charge will revert to him.''’
Related by Bukhari and Muslim. quoted from Riyad-us-Saliheen (Hadith # 1805)

Commentary: 

Amongst the grave sins which would be tantamount to an act of ‘kufr’ or disbelief in the Sight of Allah Subhanah are:

1. To intentionally attribute one’s lineage or fatherhood to a person who is not one’s biological father.

2. To falsely claim something which one knows does not rightfully belong to them.

3. To label or accuse a true believer of disbelief, or accuse them of being an enemy of Allah.

Oaths…

Hadrat Abdullah Ibn Umar (r.a.) said: ‘The Messenger of Allah (saws) said, "Allah has prohibited you from taking an oath by your fathers. He who must take an oath, may do so by swearing in the Name of Allah or he should remain silent.''’
Related by Bukhari and Muslim. quoted from Riyad-us-Saliheen (Hadith # 1707)

Commentary:

It is absolutely and categorically prohibited and forbidden for a believer who sincerely believes in Allah and the Last Day to take an oath in the name of one’s father (or absolutely anything in creation)….for an oath can only be taken in the Blessed Name of Allah Subhanah, for He Alone is Truly a Witness to everything.

In another authentic narration the Messenger of Allah (saws) declared: ‘He who takes an oath by anyone or anything other than Allah, has indeed committed an act of ‘Kufr’ (disbelief) or ‘shirk’ (polytheism).’

Dua…

Hadrat Abdullah bin Masud (r.a.) reported: ‘The Messenger of Allah (saws) used to supplicate: "Allahumma inni as'alukal-huda, wat-tuqa, wal-afafa, wal-ghina (O Allah! I beseech You for guidance, piety, chastity and contentment)."
Related by Muslim. quoted from Riyad-us-Saliheen (Hadith # 1468)

Commentary:

The Messenger of Allah (saws) preferred to make supplications which were short and general in nature, but wholesome and comprehensive in its meanings.

Huda: Guidance towards virtue, ability to do good deeds, and remain steadfast on the Straight Path of Allah Subhanah.

Tuqa: To comply wholeheartedly with the Commands of Allah and to prevent oneself from what the Lord has forbidden is ‘taqwa’ (piety, or the fear of Allah).

Afafa: means prevention from sins and also means evasion from seeking help from others.

Ghina: enough sustenance which makes one independent of all others except Allah Subhanah.

Voluntary Prayers…

Guidance from The Prophet (saws)

Hadrat Aishah (r.a.), the mother of the believers, reported: ‘The Messenger of Allah (saws) never omitted four rakah (voluntary) prayer before the ‘dhuhr’ prayer and the two rakah (voluntary) prayer before dawn (Fajr) prayer.’
Related by Bukhari. quoted from Riyad-us-Saliheen (Hadith # 1100)

Commentary:

Amongst the ‘nafl’ or extra prayers which the Prophet (saws) never failed to offer were the four-rakah voluntary prayers before the obligatory ‘dhuhr’ prayer and the two-rakah voluntary prayer before the obligatory ‘fajr’ prayer.

These six-rakahs are amongst the twelve rakahs of what is known as the Sunnah Muaqqedah prayers which the Prophet (saws) almost never ever missed. The other Sunnah Muaqqedah prayers other than the ones listed above are:

1. two-rakahs after the obligatory ‘dhuhr’ prayer.

2. two-rakahs after the obligatory ‘magrib’ prayer.

3. and two-rakahs after the obligatory ‘isha’ prayer.

Why Do We Have Problems In Our Lives?

Why Do We Have Problems In Our Lives?

Allah Almighty is All-Knowing and All-Wise. He is also the Most Compassionate, and Most Merciful, without doubt. Yet, in His Ultimate Wisdom, Allaah afflicts His slaves from time to time with disasters and calamities, the reasons for which cannot, fully, be comprehended. And it is not befitting any of his creatures to question His Doings.
”He cannot be questioned for His acts, but they will be questioned (for theirs)”.
However, some of the reasons may be as follows. And Allah knows best.
Through calamities, Allah tests the Believers:
Do people think that they will be left alone because they say: We believe, - and will not be tested. And We indeed tested those who were before them. [Al-Ankaboot:2]
Or think you that you will enter Paradise without such (trials) as came to those who passed away before you? They were afflicted with severe poverty and ailments and were so shaken that even the Messenger and those who believed along with him said, When (will come) the Help of Allah? Yes! Certainly, the Help of Allah is near! [Al-Baqarah:214]
Through calamities, Allah forgives sins and raises our status:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: There is nothing that befalls a believer, not even a thorn that pricks him, but Allah will record one good deed for him and will remove one bad deed from him. (Muslim)
Also, he (pbuh) said: Trials will continue to befall the believing man and woman, with regard to themselves, their children and their wealth, until they meet Allah with no sin on them. (Tirmidhi- Saheeh)
Through calamities, Allah distinguishes between people:
By testing us, Allah filters the pure from the evil, the good from the bad, the true from the false, and the believer from the hypocrite.
Allah will not leave the believers in the state in which you are now, until He distinguishes the wicked from the good [Aal Imraan:179]
And Allah will certainly make known (the truth of) those who are true, and will certainly make known (the falsehood of) those who are liars, (although Allah knows all that before putting them to test) [Al-Ankaboot:3]
Through disasters, Allah warns us & reminds us so we may return to Him:
This is one of the greatest reasons behind calamities and trials, that Allah warns us to correct our mistakes and mend our ways. If we do so, it is good only for us. If we don’t pay heed, surely, only WE are the losers.
Verily, We sent (Messengers) to many nations before you (O Muhammad). And We seized them with extreme poverty and loss in health (with calamities) so that they might humble themselves (believe with humility). [Anaam :42]
See they not that they are put in trial once or twice every year (with different kinds of calamities, disease, famine)? Yet, they turn not in repentance, nor do they learn a lesson (from it) [At-Tawbah: 126]
Calamities and disasters strike because of our sins:
And whatever of misfortune befalls you, it is because of what your hands have earned. And He pardons much [al-Shoora:30]
Disasters and calamities are a means of punishment:
And indeed, We destroyed generations before you when they did wrong, while their Messengers came to them with clear proofs, but they were not such as to believe! Thus do We requite the people who are Mujrimoon (criminals) [Yoonus:13]
If one is patient, they are also a means of great reward in the Hereafter:
The Prophet (pbuh) said: On the Day of Resurrection, when people who had suffered affliction are given their reward, those who were healthy will wish their skins had been cut to pieces with scissors when they were in the world (when they see the great REWARD for suffering) (Tirmidhi- Saheeh)
Disasters and calamities are reminders that the world is only temporary:
If the world were free of calamities, man would love it more and feel content with it, and would forget about the Hereafter. But calamities wake him up from his negligence and make him strive for the place (al-Jannah) in which there are NO calamities or trials.
Calamities and trials remind us that we are so weak:
Problems and disasters are a sign of man’s weakness and his need for his Lord. Man cannot succeed unless he realizes his need for his Lord and starts beseeching Him.
Worship during hard times has a special favor and a special reward:
The Prophet (pbuh) said: Worshipping at times of tribulation and confusion is like migrating to join me. (Muslim)
Calamities make a person appreciate the blessings he has from Allah:
Blessings that come after pain, hardship and calamity are more precious to people. So then they appreciate the blessings as they should be appreciated, and thank Allah.
If things are always easy, a person may forget all the blessing given to him By Allah and not be grateful for it, so Allah tests him by taking some of them away, as a reminder to him to be grateful for it. And, only the one whose heart is open will feel this. Those who have no heart do not give thanks for the blessings of Allah; rather they are arrogant towards Allah and His creation.
When Muslims help those Muslims who have been afflicted by calamity, they will be rewarded for that:
The Prophet (pbuh) said: The likeness of the believers in their mutual love, mercy and compassion is that of the body; when one part of it suffers, the rest of the body joins it in staying awake and suffering fever. (Bukhari, Muslim)

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Friday, March 06, 2009

The Fitnah of Dajjal…

Fitnah of Dajjaal

Q- We hear about the Dajjaal and the Fitnah (tribulations) surrounding him, from which the Messenger (peace be upon him) sought refuge (in Allah), and we have been commanded to seek refuge (in Allah) from his fitnah. So who is the Dajjaal? And what are his attributes?

A – Dajjaal is a man who will appear towards the end of time, and Jews will follow him. His appearance is a sign of the Last Hour, and he will bring with him immense Fitan (tests and trials) which will have an adverse effect on the Iman (of Muslims). Quite possibly many people may perish because of his Fitnah, except those whom Allah protects.

As for his attributes, he would be a Kafir man, blind in one eye. He will seek to divert people from their religion by whatever means possible. So his Fitnah and danger will be immense. It is obligatory upon us to seek refuge in Allah from his Fitnah, as we have been commanded (to do so) by the Prophet (peace be upon him).

– Sheikh Salih Bin Fowzaan; Al-Muntaqaa Min Fatawa, vol. 2, pg. 97.

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Wednesday, March 04, 2009

Light on tongue, heavy on scale

ABU Hurairah reported, Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said:

“There are two statements that are light on the tongue to remember, heavy on the Scales and are dear to the Merciful: `Subhan-Allahi wa bihamdihi; Subhan-Allahil-Azim (Glory be to Allah and His is the praise; Allah, the Greatest is free from imperfection).’’’

       – Source: Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Tuesday, March 03, 2009

Repentence…

Guidance from The Prophet (saws)

Hadrat Abu Hurairah (saws) reported: ‘I heard the Messenger of Allah (saws) saying: "By Allah, I seek Allah's forgiveness and repent to Him more than seventy times a day.''’
Related by Bukhari.Hadith quoted from Riyad-us-Saliheen (Chapter 002, Hadith # 13)

Commentary: 

Although the Prophet (saws) was absolutely sinless, and Allah Subhanah had forgiven his past and future sins…..the Messenger of Allah (saws) used to seek forgiveness from and repent unto The Lord Most High more than seventy times a day.

Should we then, who probably commit sins with every breath we take, not seek pardon and repent unto the Lord Most Gracious, Most Merciful?

Wailing…

A’Hadiths

Guidance from The Prophet (saws)

Hadrat Abdullah Ibn Masud (r.a.) said: ‘The Messenger of Allah (saws) said, "He who (on befalling a calamity) slaps his cheeks, tears his clothes and follows the ways and traditions of the Days of Ignorance is none of us.''’
Related by Bukhari and Muslim. Hadith quoted from Riyad-us-Saliheen (Chapter 302, Hadith # 1658)

Commentary:

It simply does not befit the character of a believer to wail, or lament, or slap one’s cheeks, or chest, or tear one’s clothes, etc. when afflicted by a calamity as a trial from their Lord. One should recognize that their affliction is no more than a trial from their Lord, accept their affliction with patience, and declare: ‘Inna lillahe wa inna ilayhe rajeoon’ (To Allah we belong and to Him is our return).

Such is the act of wailing and lamenting when afflicted by a calamity hated in the Sight of Allah Subhanah, that the Messenger of Allah (saws) declared wailing as a tradition of the ‘days of ignorance’, and warned that one who wails at an affliction is ‘none of us’ (not a true believer)!

Women, Women, WOMEN!!!

Women, women, women !

THE woman must do this, the woman must do that. She must cook the food, take care of children, and obey her husband at all costs! Does Islam really subjugate women like it is thought? Well the answer is plain and simple. NO! To think, some of us are getting too obsessed with women, and all our focus and criticism goes against them, but what about men? Without doubt there are many things that are upon the women that are in her benefit, however, there are just as many things upon men, but these are either ignored or just not talked about.

Firstly, we should understand that men and women are different and have different roles in Islam. Allah says in the Qur’an:

“And wish not for the things in which Allah has made some of you to excel others. For men there is reward for what they have earned, (and likewise) for women there is reward for what they have earned, and ask Allah of His Bounty. Surely, Allah is Ever All-Knower of everything.” (Qur’an, 4:32)

In Islam, men have many responsibilities to fulfill towards women. The man must earn, provide for, clothe and shelter his wife, and he is not allowed to take the money she owns. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said that your wife has a right upon you (Al-Bukhari) and fulfilling this right is an indication of revering and fearing Allah. Man will be questioned if he fulfilled this duty. If he does not, then it is a clear act of disobedience to Allah and His Messenger.

So husbands, are we fulfilling our duty or are we disobeying our Lord?

Women play an important role towards the society. A mother who raises her children in accordance with the teachings of Islam is the backbone of society. Well-nurtured children are a basis for a strong community. Men should also play a part in the upbringing of the children. Yes, he has to go out and work, but there are 24 hours in a day and 168 hours in a week. I’m sure most of us are not so busy; if we prudently manage our time, we can make positive contribution in their upbringing. Here’s the question: How many men change nappies? How many men get up at night when the baby is crying? Very few I suppose.

How about dishes? When was the last time any of us men did the washing up? Why is it such a chore? After finishing dinner, what harm would it cause to pick up the plates and wash them? No instead, we eat to our fill, leave the plates where they are and take it for granted that our wives will do it. By helping around in washing dishes, changing nappies, and making our beds, our wives will only love us more.

The man also has a Hijab to observe. He must always lower his gaze. This is another aspect taken for granted. We have heard that we are not held to account for that one, unintentional, look. But some take it for granted to elongate it and make it ‘one long look.’ We must fear Allah and observe proper Hijab. Men should also dress modestly. His clothes must show piety and his Awrah must not be displayed.

We also ignore dressing up for our wives. Ask yourselves, when was the last time you looked your best for your wife? It is expected from her to look after the kids, make the dinner, clean the house and look good for us, but what about us? If the food is not cooked when we come home or we don’t like its taste, how do we react? Do we follow the Sunnah and keep silent without criticizing food?

We should follow the guidance of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) in all areas of our lives, and that includes within our households. Women are our partners. When no one listens to our problems, our wives do. Let’s start from today and make that change and surely the Prophet’s (peace be upon him) statement should be something for us to ponder on.

“The best of you are the best to their wives, and I am the best of you with my wives‚ – (Ibn Hibban)

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Morning coffee…

When you're persistent you find the power to hold on

and persevere in spite of anything.  You're able to

overcome every obstacle and you do all that's

necessary to succeed.

Persistence does not mean you will not fail. but

it does mean that when you feel defeated you rise

above your disappointment and keep trying.  Instead

of giving up when all seems hopeless, you find a way

to keep going.  You simply refuse to give up.

Great things will come your way when you persist

and endure what seems possible.  No, it's not easy,

but remember big achievements require time.

Be patient and don't give up, you can persevere and

you will succeed.

Fighting against despair will usually just serve to deepen and prolong it.

Instead of fighting against despair, overwhelm it with joy.

The best way to move away from something negative is to move toward something positive.

For every ounce of discouragement that comes your way, respond with a pound of positive, joyful living.

Rather than being overly concerned about what you're fighting against,

find yourself something to live for.

Put your time and energy in a positive, productive,

creative, life-affirming direction.

Imagine what would happen if you were disrespectful,

rude and insulting to another person,

and yet that person offered you nothing but kindness,

respect and gratitude in return. How long would you be able to

maintain such a negative approach?

Probably not very long, for your negativity would soon be overwhelmed

by the sincere kindness being returned to you. In the same way,

you can overwhelm the negativity that comes your way.

Respond to life with kindness, with joy, with positive,

productive action and enthusiasm.

Overwhelm the difficult world with goodness and joy.

Ralph Marston

Thought for the day...

"Words are one of our chief means of adjusting to all

the situations of life.

The better control we have of our words,

the more successful our adjustment will be."

Dua…

Hadrat Anas bin Malik (r.a.) reported: ‘The supplication most often recited by the Prophet (saws) was: "Allahumma atina fid-dunya hasanatan, wa fil-akhirati hasanatan, wa qina adhaab-annar (O our Lord! Give us in this world that which is good and in the Hereafter that which is good, and save us from the punishment of the Fire)."'
Related by Bukhari and Muslim. Hadith quoted from Riyad-us-Saliheen

Commentary:

The Messenger of Allah (saws) preferred to make supplications which were short and general in nature; and there is no better supplication one can make than beseeching the Lord Most Gracious to bestow upon them good in this world, good in the Hereafter, and safety from the punishment of the Hell Fire.

It is reported that the Messenger of Allah (saws) would recite this supplication more often than any other supplication.

Muslim Children for adoption. Please call for more info

My Muslim Community, I have urgent news. There are two little girls
two years old and 8 months old who need to be adopted otherwise the
government will take them and it is our responsibility to make sure these
girls do not go into non-muslim's hands. If anyone is willing to adopt them
or knows someone who will take them PLEASE let me know right away,
as we only have till march. Please spread the word, to anyone and everyone
who may be interested, this is our responsibilty as muslims to make sure
these girls go to a good muslim household inshallah.
-Shazia
These girls are related to Saima Azhar, the elder child went in for a broken
arm to the doctor and the parents got accused of child abuse, unfortunetly
they lost the case and now they cant have there children back!!!! Can you
imagine how tough that is for a mom! anyways so they are in Sacramento at
the moment, for anymore info you can contact Saima Azhar at her mom's place
at 909.923.9428

Ayesha (RA)

How they lived: Ayesha (may Allah be pleased with her

From the lives of our pious predecessors:

‘URWAH Bin Al-Zubayr said: “Ayesha (may Allah be pleased with her) gave 70,000 (dirhams) in charity, while her own skirt used to be patched.”

‘Abdullah Bin Mubarak in Al-Zuhd wa Al-Raqa’iq, vol. 1 p. 588, no.705.

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